Started From the Bottom Now we're Here!

Life Coach Early Jackson shares with the graduates and others from the subject: Vision & Process (We started from the bottom now we're here)

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Life Coach Early Jackson shares with the graduates and others from the subject: Vision & Process (We started from the bottom now we're here)

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Life Coach Early Jackson shares with the graduates and others from the subject: Vision & Process (We started from the bottom now we're here)

Developing Organic Relationships | Motivation and Success Strategies | GetMotivation

Organic products seem to be the in thing right now. Take a stroll through any of your local markets or grocery stores and you will see an army of products that include the healthiest ingredients and of course, they are organically grown.

In this post I want to focus not on your physical health in regards to organic items, but the importance of allowing networking relationships to blossom into an organic thing so you can really reap a benefit from all the people you know.

First, understand that the definition of organic is very simple. Webster defines organic as “of, relating to, or derived from living organisms; without the use of chemicals or pesticides”. This speaks volumes considering the bulk of all our communications today consist of texts and emails.

Don’t get me wrong, I literally live with a BlackBerry attached to me, but at the same time I recognize the importance of real, one-on-one communication with people outside of cyber world. This can be a significant challenge today with the hours that we work the commute back and forth and our many commitments to other things.

But I want to challenge us to step outside the box and make a conscious effort to cultivate REAL relationships with REAL people face to face. This becomes compounded when we hit a patch where we need encouragement or some form of support. If all you have are cyber relationships it is that much harder to stay afloat.

We all, according to Maslow’s laws of human need, require both safety and social support. We all have stories where we had our heads hung down and then a friend or colleague came through with real physical contact and it changed our perspective. Never under-estimate the force of your network system.

It can be the difference between success and failure. In fact, those interviewed who would be considered top performers in major corporations acknowledge the majority of their success is directly related to the support/encouragement they received from managers and peers.

I want us to understand the following four points that show the value in an Organic Relationship.

(1) Organic Relationships cause unlikely and profitable connections. Have you noticed how valuable Taco Bell, KFC & Pizza Hut have become since the merging of their efforts years ago? Alone, neither of them saw major increase, but together they are cutting costs and reaping rewards. Search for those who you could link up with for a greater return.

(2) Organic Relationships begin to expand frontiers that were not seen before. Much like the early settlers expanding west, you and I together can collaborate and not only double our efforts but cut the success time in half.

(3) Organic Relationships create combustible breakthroughs in areas conceived to be impossible.When Bill Proctor and James Gamble met after marrying sisters they had a vision to create a soap that could float. With a majority of military contracts acquired they were able to launch into the other industries and cause breakthrough research that has amassed millions.

(4) Organic Relationships foster and nurture a culture of understanding and tolerance. Everyone needs to be heard and acknowledged. Ralph Sockman said “The test of courage comes when we are the minority but the test of tolerance comes when we are majority”. I believe he was saying it takes the right environment to foster growth and innovation. This environment is only achieved through organic relationships.

So there you have it. The question now becomes, how are we to maximize the wealth of contacts, leads and networks we are exposed to everyday. I encourage you to set aside a little time each week to speak face to face with those you consider valuable and let the organic growth bloom! Put the devices away and interface with a friend.

See you at the TOP!

Early Jackson

Success Lesson: Developing Organic Relationships | Motivation and Success Strategies | GetMotivation

7 Dumb Things We Do To Sabotage Our Relationships

We all do dumb things in relationships.  We break up, move on and do more dumb stuff with a brand new person.  Then we wonder why all the people we meet suck!  The truth is, we can un-learn those things and have better results.  Clink on the link below to listen as Coach Early Jackson shares valuable principles to help you experience better, more fulfilling relationships.

7 Dumb Things We Do To Sabotage Our Relationships

The Art Of Making The Deal

Few things strike fear in a person more than the thought of sitting across the table from someone negotiating. Whether it’s at the car dealership, convincing a toddler to take a nap or navigating through an argument with your spouse; life is all about negotiations. From birth we learn how to go back and forth in an effort to get what we want. In fact, we perfect this skill by early adolescence and use it to manipulate others. I often share with clients how we listen to the same radio station,WIIFM or What’s In It For Me?

The reality is, it does not get easier. As we grow, the stakes become higher which means if we are to be successful; it’s going to mean getting better at the art of deal making. As the infamous Dr. Phil says, “I don’t care if you know it or even like to play, you’re in this game of life!” Since you cannot escape this truth, I wanted to share a few pointers I have gathered through years of marketing, sales and corporate America on how to get positioned for the best deals in life.

• It’s important to establish credibility in the beginning: People do business with people they instinctively like. Now this isn’t some deep rooted personal connection. This is simply a ‘gut’ feeling we get about someone new we meet. Your body language, facial expressions and mannerism speak volumes about who we are. Get in the habit of putting people at ease, then let them know you are there to assist.

• Poke the bear, uncover their need/pain level: We all do what we do for two reasons; stopping pain or creating pleasure. That’s it! If you are ever going to be successful in your dealing with people, you must answer those two issues. When you ‘poke the bear’ you are purposefully bringing to the surface issues so you can demonstrate how you can help. Have confidence that everyone you meet really does want the pain to stop.

• Don’t focus on how, focus on why: I love talking to clients and letting them know if they create a big enough ‘WHY’ they won’t have to stress about ‘HOW’. When something is important, humans always find a way to make it happen. It’s just in our DNA. When you know ‘why’ a person wants a thing, you can better serve their life.

• Don’t stop asking until ‘you’ are convince and understand: It will get uncomfortable. It may even get testy. But on the other side of this awkwardness is a tremendous breakthrough. We are usually right on the verge of something good with people and we just fall short. Maybe our patience runs out or we think it isn’t worth it. Remember, we are like onions in that we have layers. Keep peeling until you both understand where you are coming from.

You may never sit across from Donald Trump trying to work out a billion dollar real estate deal. But that doesn’t mean you can’t learn the subtle art of getting deals done. Life is connective. We are a part of each other now more than ever. So the skills needed to get through tough negotiations are vital to accomplish what you want out of life. It’s an art so get ready to pain your masterpiece.

 See ya at the top!

Early

© 2013, Early L. Jackson. All rights reserved.

Myths About The Man of Steel

The summer of 2013 is gearing up to be an action movie junkies’ dream come true. With releases set from Hollywood heavy hitters like DeNiro, Smith, Hanks and Cruise, I have already prepared to beat the heat of summer in the movie theaters. As usual, I look forward to a couple of films that were adapted from the comics. Last year was the Dark Knight’s run, this year it’s none other than the man from Krypton, Kal-El. Most recognize him from his earth name, Clark Kent.

I can’t tell you the times I wrapped a towel from my mother’s linen closet around my neck and ran off to simulate flying. Every boy has once dreamed of being faster than a speeding bullet and more powerful than a locomotive. But somewhere between adolescence and high school our once lofty dreams approach life from a safer perspective.

There are unspoken rules of conduct that men abide by. See, the worst insult you could give a man is that he’s somehow acting less than what a ‘real’ man should. So we go through great lengths to ensure our manhood is not questioned. In this we often lose sight of transparency or being authentic. Instead we are working overtime to keep up a facade. This behavior is passed down time and time again. But as men, we can never grow pass what we refuse to confront. Here are a few ‘myths’ we carry as men of steel:

• Men don’t have feelings, therefore they cannot be hurt: This is a flat out lie. As I often say, we have the same feelings as women with a much different expression. Any guy who says a woman has never broken his heart or let him down needs to get his head examined. As men, we are occupational while women tend to be relational. So we find our identity in what we do, not who we know.

• Men just don’t like to talk: The truth is, we don’t like to talk at the exact moment women do, but we do talk. We speak about things that affect us or inspire us. If you ever want to see a guy really get chatty, tap into what he’s passionate about. That’s what matters most to men.

• Men avoid commitment at all costs: What connects us to our manhood is how well our families are taken care of. I don’t believe I have been more ashamed or disappointed in myself than when my finances fell too short to take care of my family. I felt less than a man. Often if we have a doubt about our ability to provide, we tend to shy away from that commitment.

• Men never get depressed: Absolutely we do! The difference is, early in boyhood we were told, big boys don’t cry. We took that mantra to heart. In fact, we added on that big boys don’t share their emotions. We took it as a sign of weakness. But anything without a pressure valve to give release will likely explode.

I have always been fascinated with the story of Superman. Not just because of his incredible acts of heroics, but because the people closest to him never made the connection. Somehow he could come up missing, he could save their lives and spend time with them, and no one ever thought Clark was really Superman. I guess that’s appropriate. As men, we have lived the truth that it’s the other way around. Superman, was really Clark Kent all along.

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